Sarah's Guide on How to be a Decent Human Being

Hello there, human.

I have shared long winded, unsolicited advice posts on Facebook for years. I have felt borderline prophetic from time to time, sitting in my room, typing so madly and tossing that bad bitch right into the abyss that is my Facebook timeline. Today, I wanted to share something a bit more substantial. A bit more thought out.

I have typically gone about sharing my opinions in the worst way possible. But as you may or may not know, I’ve spent this year becoming Sarah 2.0 the baddest bitch of the queendom. So here I am, sharing my thoughts v legitimately on a blog! **ooh, ahh**

I imagine most people’s mental resting space is thinking about their job, their kids, their hobbies. Thinking about what tasks they need to work on this week, their spouse, lover, what they need to buy at the store, etc. (Am I wrong? Is this not what other people think about?)

Well friends, before we get started I would like to introduce you to my mind.

My resting space has always been: am I a cell living on some giant organism hurdling through the black abyss of space?? I have no idea why I am here or what my purpose is. What the fuck is going on? The society around me seems crazy! But how can they all be crazy and me only be sane? That doesn’t make sense. How can my thoughts be so in contrast to everybody around me? How can I be right and ALL of them are wrong? That can’t be right! I must be the crazy one! & Repeat.

This was the narrative inside my mind for 27 years. I’m sure I am far less unique in this mindset than I would ever give myself credit for, but I digress.

As the shit storm of the world around me continues to get crazier, and crazier, and crazier. I am starting to realize that maybe, just maybe, I AM the only sane one.

Okay, slow down there buddy-o. That doesn't mean I am right & you are wrong. It means, I have a unique perspective that I think maybe, just maybe, can help some folks.

Anyways, I got to thinking… perhaps more people will agree with me than I think, and if I can stop living in fear and start actually sharing my ideas free of fear, maybe I can start helping people the way I have dreamt about for years.

So here I am. Putting ink onto paper. Today, I want to talk about being a decent person and building our future in the age of global pandemic.

COVID-19 has already changed the world. The idea that we are going “back to normal” is simply invalid. What we will go back to, is a “new” normal.

We, as the architects of our reality, have the choice to build a future of adaptation and growth. One that welcomes women, minorities, folks on the fringe with truly genuine open arms. (Not the half-way shit we've been attempting for the last decade that is still very exclusive and pyramid schemey). A future that is not obsessed with consumerism but is based in connection and experience.

Other parts of the world have already proven this is a much better version of reality. We have the distinct ability to redefine our society so the truth can be apparent to more than just a few at the top.

Opportunities like this don’t come knocking very often.

Science has been one of the greatest additions to human development in the last 200 years, and was the driving force that brought our world into the future back then. It has cured disease, answered questions that have plagued society for hundreds of years, and has built modern architecture, literature, culture.

But science has also led to massive destruction of the world. Scientific development of weapons, mining, technology, and other industries have massively contributed to the Capitalist systems that keep so few in power.

Probably the most alarming and newfound worry with COVID-19 is that science largely discredits spirituality. Belief in science leads many to lose faith in God. (Going to note that from here on out, I will use "God" but I mean, the universal power, the unexplained energy, the force, whatever you choose to call it. I do NOT mean the dogmatic "God" that makes people not want to believe in God in the first place)

I myself was an atheist for 25 years for this exact reason. I couldn’t grasp the concept of God because how could a God do such terrible things? My life had to fall completely the fuck apart to find out. The actions I took in contrast to God led me to self destruction and it it was only until I found my faith and spent time reading scripture, that my soul was set free. I was forced to realize that everything I chose not to believe in was actually very true.

So, how do we build our future better? There has to be a different way of thinking that can continue to push us even further.

I am a firm believer that mythology and spirituality is science we just don’t understand yet. Thousands and thousands of years of human history and spirituality cannot be for naught. Nor can the discoveries of science be ignored.

In the unknown is where God speaks and provides the keys and lessons that drive humanity forward. God enables certain individuals with gifts that will in turn propel concepts like science forward.

Spirituality and science are one in the same, they feed each other and cannot exist without each other. They are the yin to each other’s yang.

So, how does all of this relate to being a decent human being? Well, I just covered the fundamental base of what makes people tick: being told your belief system is wrong. Or having new information come into your life that may make you question your version of reality.

A decent human being will take the changes with stride, and move forward. Accepting that while it may be difficult to come to terms with, admit that maybe they were wrong, and be open to new evidence that will help them strive forward.

A not decent human being will fervently plant their feet into the ground and not budge on their beliefs. They will stay so stringently tied to their decision that they would rather watch people (and themselves) suffer than drop their pride.

One of the only truths is that we don’t know shit about shit.

Each individual can only know so much. Hence why it is absolutely fundamental to be open to all sorts of ideas. Variety is the spice of life and I like my life SPICY!

If you want to be decent, be willing to change your mind. Be open to what is going on and listen to the world around you. Read, research, and learn, with a fully open mind, not simply looking for information that will confirm your pre-determined belief about something.

One of the greatest lessons I ever learned came from Chuck McConnell, Sociology Professor at UC Irvine. He started all of his classes by writing on his board: “Believe everything I say, but don’t believe anything I say either”

I have held onto this nugget of wisdom throughout the years and it has served me very well. If you ever believe too much in anything, you will be let down. If you don’t believe in anything, you will be completely lost. So take information as it comes and be willing to let go of ideas easily and flexibly. Hold onto what is true to YOU and be willing to let go of everything else.

If you can continue to do this for the rest of your life, you will always be a decent person.

What then do you call your soul? What idea have you of it? You cannot of yourselves, without revelation, admit the existence within you of anything but a power unknown to you of feeling and thinking. ~Voltaire

Fun Bonus Activity:

Let’s do a quick meditation exercise. Sit, lay, stand, whatever feels right. Close your eyes, or keep them open, whatever feels right.

Just sit there quietly for a second.

Focus your energy right to your third eye. You can maybe feel some heat building right around your forehead.

Now, allow that relaxing energy to flow down your face.

Loosen your muscles Unclench your jaw, your shoulders.

Feel the energy flow down into your belly and your thighs and all the way down to your toes. Imagine there are little holes on the ends of your toes and the energy will flow right out.

Allow yourself to release and surrender yourself until you are centered and calm. Now take 5 deep belly breaths in & out.

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